Despite the importance of
honesty in a good relationship, there remain a few things you might want to
keep to yourself. We’re not suggesting being deceitful, but in a select number
of cases, what you don’t say matters more than what you do. Here are the top
five things not to share.
Mean things you’ve
heard about him
Your man doesn't need to
hear about any mean things your friends or family have said about him. Unless
it’s relevant and important to your relationship, there’s no need to hurt him
with their not-so-nice words. To do so would just rock the boat. You want your
family and friends to like him, and you want him to like your family and
friends, so avoid creating an unnecessary rift.
Things he can’t change
Being open and sharing
opinions that can help move the relationship forward is a must, but being
critical about things your partner can’t easily change (his baldness, his
height) isn’t fair. Your opinion matters to him and whether you see him as
attractive is most likely very important to him, so if he can’t
change something about his appearance, why tell him?
Other people’s secrets
If a friend confides in you
and asks you not to tell anyone, respect her wishes and keep her secret — even
from your guy. Unless you need his assistance or are troubled by the
information, keep it to yourself. You’re in no way obligated to share other
people’s secrets with your partner, especially when they don’t have anything do
with him.
Negative feelings about his
family
You might not love his
family, but keep your negative comments about them to yourself. Let’s face it;
he wants you to like his family, and he’s most likely sensitive about those
people in his life. If there is a legitimate problem with one of his family members,
ask his advice about how to resolve the issue, but don’t go overboard. Don’t
reveal lots of negative feelings especially if those family members can’t
change what you are annoyed with.
Attraction to someone he
knows
It’s OK to think other
people are attractive (hello, Ryan Gosling), but you don’t need to tell your
partner, especially if it’s someone he knows. Yes, these feelings are only
thoughts and you (ideally) haven’t acted on them, but there is no need to stir
up feelings that might promote or inspire jealousy.
